“Every pregnancy is different.” It’s the cliche phrase that every pregnant woman hears constantly. Whether you’re on your second (or third) pregnancy or just discussing the experience with another woman. I’ve heard it so many times that if I had a dollar for every time someone said it to me I could probably buy a private island. But I’ve come to realize 5 months into this journey that it is so freaking true. While a lot of things have been very similar, just as much has been different. One of the biggest things for me is that my life is totally different this time. When I was pregnant with Mara I had a 9-5 office job, a 40 minute commute and my weekends were free for going out. This time, I spend my days at home having dance parties with a toddler, managing my house and if I’m lucky I can go to dinner with a friend once in awhile. This means that I no longer need (or want to wear) all of the work appropriate clothes that I bought before, so I’ve had to revamp my maternity wardrobe a bit. I’ve done this on a limited budget and, on the days that I get dressed for real, I don’t feel like a total slob.
First, after having one baby my body was definitely… different… so very early on (even though I wasn’t showing) wearing anything with a button was out of the question. Luckily, post-Mara I had invested in some high-waisted and affordable leggings from Charlotte Russe. These leggings are less than $8 and have lasted me over a year. I still wear them most days, even at 21 weeks along. They are also AMAZING for postpartum due to the high waist.
I also had a few pairs of maternity leggings that I pulled out of storage. I love the patterned leggings because I mostly own solid shirts, so these give the outfit a fun flair. I also have a pair of maternity dress pants (doubt they will get much wear this time) and a pair of maternity jeans. I hate maternity jeans with a passion. They always feel like they are falling off and the crotch gets saggy after a little while. But they are totally necessary and everyone should have at least one pair for the days you just want to wear a pair of damn jeans. Plus, when I got huge a lot of tops stopped being long enough for leggings in the front.
I’d said goodbye to most of my tighter fitting tops postpartum. I just didn’t feel confident in them anymore and they weren’t comfy. I bought several looser fitting tanks and t-shirts after Mara (I had her in the spring) and usually paired them with a cardigan or jacket in the winter. While I love pairing things with cardigans, and that’s what I did for most of my first pregnancy, I wasn’t feeling it this time around. I’ve been so cold this pregnancy that I knew I wanted some warmer sweaters for lounging around the house. This Star Wars sweater from Target is my favorite. It’s cozy, warm and Star Wars. I bought it a size up so I could wear it with leggings and keep my booty covered, plus the belly is going to grow. I also searched the men’s section at Old Navy and invested in a few over-sized thermal tops. They are so cozy, but they totally count as real clothes.
Sizing up in non-maternity tops is actually something I’ve done a lot this time around. I hit up TJ Maxx a few weeks ago and came away with several chic sweatshirts and a long sweater that are super comfy. I’m happy with the fit and in some of them you still can’t really see the bump so I know they will work for a while longer. Plus, I didn’t pay more than $20 for anything so even if I’m not feeling them next year I don’t feel too guilty about buying them in the first place.
One big tip I have for buying maternity clothes is to buy things that are neutral. My wardrobe is mostly grey and black and it’s great for mixing pieces and having WAY more outfit options to choose from. You can always add a colorful cardigan, patterned scarf or statement jewelry to dress up a simple outfit. Then you wont be left with a closet full of maternity clothes that you don’t know if you’ll ever wear again because you may not be pregnant in the same time table.
Also, invest in one dress that would be appropriate for anything from a fancy dinner to a funeral. You never know what’s going to come up and the last thing you want to do is be desperately searching for a dress at the last minute. Keep it simple and neutral so you are ready for anything. I was gifted a dress from a friend and ended up needing it towards the end of my pregnancy for a wedding, a dinner party and a funeral. I was so thankful to have it hanging in my closet so that I didn’t have to worry about what to wear. (Photo from Valentine’s Day 2 years ago)
Another game changer, and totally frivolous purchase, was buying a cute pair of sneakers. I didn’t need them, but they are so comfy for running errands or taking Mara on a play date. Also, I technically didn’t buy them, Jesse did. And it was my birthday. They are the green Adidas Gazelles and I love them so much. I feel like they pull my athleisure outfits together way better than my Nike’s do.
I hope you have an awesome weekend! We have some plans to get out of the house for a bit, but will mostly be taking it easy.